A Journey of Finding Faith in the Fire
Life has tested me in ways that defy understanding.
From the very beginning, I was met with rejection, heartbreak, and pain. I have walked through fire, through trauma, abuse, and loss, facing battles that were designed to destroy me. Yet, somehow, I am still here.
This blog is not a linear retelling of my past but a reflection of my journey. Raw. Unfiltered. Real.
Each post stands alone, yet together, they weave a story of stumbles and survival, of breaking and becoming, of faith that carried me when nothing else could.
Flames & Grace is more than just a name, it is a reflection of the balance between struggle and strength, pain and perseverance. The very flames that tried to consume me, have instead refined me. And through grace, I have been transformed.
If you have ever felt lost, broken, or like you don’t belong, this space is for you.
May you find strength, healing, and the reminder that your story is far from over.
Welcome
The stories I share here are deeply personal. Told through my experiences, my perspective, and my understanding. They are not meant to be universal truths, nor do they define what these experiences mean for anyone else.
Many of the topics I discuss, including trauma, mental illness, and healing, are complex and deeply individual. What has been true for me may not be true for you, and that’s okay. My intent is never to generalize or diminish anyone else’s journey, but simply to share my own … honestly, vulnerably, and without claiming to have all the answers.
Please read with care and grace, knowing that this is my truth, my story, and my heart on paper.
If something here resonates with you, I hope it brings comfort. If it does not, I hope you continue seeking the perspectives and support that serve you best. 💛
Why Was It So Hard to Love Me, Mom?
From the moment I could understand love, I was taught that it had to be earned, not freely given. My mother, diagnosed but unwilling to accept her Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), lived in a world of emotional extremes: love and hate, tenderness and cruelty,...
Why am I still here?
.... From the moment I entered this world, I was a mistake. A burden."Unwanted. Unloved." These words became the silent echoes that shaped my existence. My childhood is a scattered puzzle, pieces lost to time and secrecy. What I do know is that my biological father...
Finding My Place: The Power of Chosen Family
A Life of Isolation Growing up amidst continual trauma, I learned to survive, not to belong. I always felt like an outsider, watching from the edges as everyone else moved through life effortlessly belonging. Perhaps being adopted added to this feeling ... a quiet,...
Lost, Found, and Forever Loved: This Is Why I Believe
My faith and belief in God are as unconventional as my life itself. My faith isn’t something neat or structured. It isn’t something I can package into a perfect explanation. But it is deeply real. It has been my anchor, my survival, the thread that has held me...
Starting Over: The Lonely, Unfamiliar Path of Healing
Do you think of healing as a journey? Me too. But what no one tells you is that it feels less like following a well-marked path and more like being dropped into an unfamiliar world without a map. For so long, I operated on a radar tuned to recognize certain types of...
You Are Not Failing, You Are Healing
The Illusion of the Healing Glow-Up Healing is often painted as a beautiful transformation, a magnificent rise from the ashes, a radiant glow-up where everything falls into place, and the pain of the past vanishes into the abyss. But if you’ve ever truly fought to...
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